I have a couple of different things to write about tonight. First off, let's talk about how hard & trying this parenting thing is. So, Grayson only wants his pacifier when he is sleepy. He never thinks about it otherwise. But today was the first day back to Nanny's(daycare) after the long weekend and I'm sure he was a little extra tired today. We walked in the house about 6 or so and he threw a fit b/c his paci fell out in the car and I wouldn't get it for him. We are trying to slowly wean him from this habit - starting with only letting him have it when he is about to go to sleep. He proceeded to throw a 20 minute screaming fit - very few tears might I add - and nothing we did suited him. So let's move on to dinner. We had hamburger helper - not that exciting I know, but a staple in a house with an 18 month old. Grayson would NOT sit in his highchair. He wanted to sit in my lap and eat his dinner and play in mine. So he did! Let's move on to after dinner - wouldn't let him play with my fork that he threw on the ground - another 10 minute crying, screaming fit. And I should tell you that he knows how to throw a fit! If he throws himself down and hits something (let's say the ottoman, for example) he will get up and move to an open area on the floor and do it again, so we get the full effect of the fit! This is pretty much what my evening consisted of - fit after fit. Nothing Casey and I did tonight was the right thing. And let me tell you (mostly you parents who aren't quite to this stage yet) this is absolutely exhausting!!! You want to ignore the fit b/c that is what you're supposed to do but you also just want to give in to make them stop screaming. And then to top it off - at the end of it all, you feel bad b/c you think you have been too hard on them. So in a nutshell - I'm tired and I hope all of this is just b/c he is tired too!!
The other thing I have to say is a small vent and I will keep it short. I try very hard to be a good long distance relative/friend and I do not think it is too much to ask for that simple courtesy in return!
The other thing I have to say is a small vent and I will keep it short. I try very hard to be a good long distance relative/friend and I do not think it is too much to ask for that simple courtesy in return!
2 comments:
It's been a few years for me robin. John is now 10 and Anna is 9. But let me tell you - when you have two that are 15 months apart you definitely know the fatigue that comes with having a child or two or three. You didn't ask for advice, so I won't give any - but maybe a little encouragement is in order.
Don't feel bad about being tired. There is no such thing as a parent that isn't tired. It is hard work and it's not hard because you're not doing something right. It's just hard period. That's the deal.
Fatigue isn't an indoicator of substandard parenting. Fatigue is a way of life.
But having said that, you need to take good care of yourself. This maybe bad counsel from a psychologist's point of view, but if you're at the end of you rope and Grayson wants the pacifyer, then give it to him. You can't give in every time because then you're teaching him some dangerous lessons about life and behavior - but sometimes you just need a break. Take good care of your own soul because in order to parent well you need to be well.
Oops - sounds like I slipped into advice giving! Anyway, hang in there. This stage will pass and then you'll have othre things to worry about like his request to get on-line and have an email address, etc. If it's not one thing it's another. Come to think of it, I'm a little tired myself!
Oh boy, the things I have to look forward to! :)
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